I struggle so much w self confidence. Even in my 12 year relationship I still won’t do things tha feel bothersome, like changing my order last minute to something I really want because it’s a couple dollars more- for example.
Even beyond that, I just feel so ugly, I don’t have many friends, the ones I do have aren’t very close, and generally just idk. Ugly and like a loser and I just hate it sm. I need to be better about forcing myself to do more outside my comfort zone I guess but I struggle a lot with anxiety and physically shake, even around family due to it.
Idk what to doz
My genius friend told me u need to win big twice when when u trust ur instincts and lose big twice when u don’t to build self-esteem. she was absolutely right!
1. People with healthy self esteem naturally do this
2. People with self hatred and trauma – even if they succeed in the task, generates so much interally generated stree – in response to the sucess – that they are compelled to give up, even when facing success
3. Some things need internal fixing before testing the world
I struggle so much w self confidence. Even in my 12 year relationship I still won’t do things tha feel bothersome, like changing my order last minute to something I really want because it’s a couple dollars more- for example.
Even beyond that, I just feel so ugly, I don’t have many friends, the ones I do have aren’t very close, and generally just idk. Ugly and like a loser and I just hate it sm. I need to be better about forcing myself to do more outside my comfort zone I guess but I struggle a lot with anxiety and physically shake, even around family due to it.
Idk what to doz
My genius friend told me u need to win big twice when when u trust ur instincts and lose big twice when u don’t to build self-esteem. she was absolutely right!
Just got a weird analgoy for this.
Even the trees are trying to reach the sun. If they didn’t reach for the sun, they wouldn’t really grow.
Great advise
So the problem with this is:
1. People with healthy self esteem naturally do this
2. People with self hatred and trauma – even if they succeed in the task, generates so much interally generated stree – in response to the sucess – that they are compelled to give up, even when facing success
3. Some things need internal fixing before testing the world